Are you apologetic about being sexy?
There are two kinds of feedback that a woman has to continuously deal with as she grows older – one, that she is out of shape, and second, that she is too sexy for her age! When did being sexy become an attribute that needs an apology? This obviously comes from a mindset that being sexy is a prerogative of the young. I think a woman can continue being sexy at any age – not because she has enviable curves, but because she has a unique attitude and mind. She is comfortable with her body and her identity, and hence exudes charm that many at her age lack.
Quick Summary
Sexiness transcends age and stems from confidence and individuality. Embrace your strengths, dress to feel good, and prioritize fitness. Opt for flattering fabrics and colours, wear good lingerie, and choose stylish yet comfortable shoes. Follow the mantra “less is more” to maintain elegance, charm, and a timeless sense of style at any age. Accentuate your best features, maintain a positive attitude, and avoid overly revealing or flashy clothing. By making thoughtful choices, you can exude sexiness and confidence regardless of your age.
So what is the mantra for staying sexy?
Don’t dress to please others
Yes…you heard it right! Dress to feel good about yourself. As long as you are not wearing your teenage daughter’s tight-fitting clothes and going over the top, you can wear anything you please.
Accentuate your strengths
Every woman is blessed with physical attributes such as a pair of eyes, slim legs, a slender neck, full pouty lips, a well-rounded derriere, and so on. Find out your personal strengths and make sure to highlight them. Maybe you have more than one, but you can accentuate just one of them to make a great impression. So, clinch on a belt if you have a narrow waist, or wear that lip color that accentuates your pout. Go ahead and take pride in what you have.
Stay fit
Work out and stay fit. Let’s agree you are out of shape not because God willed it, so work out – go for a walk, use the treadmill, do yoga, go cycling, or dance to burn that fat. In other words, prioritize fitness and be conscious about it – eat food that’s right, get the right amount of sleep, and indulge in physical activity to burn that excess fat.
Get an attitude
Dressing sexy at any age has more to do with attitude than style. It is how you feel about yourself. So be comfortable in your body, accentuate your personal assets, and have a mind of your own. Don’t dress according to prescribed life stages, but dress up in a way that makes you feel good. Your sense of self should be timeless without an expiry date. So wear a pencil skirt, shorts, or an LBD if it makes you feel as good as it looks.
Adhere to the rule: Less is more
Another cardinal rule as you grow older is to adhere to the dictum – Less is more. So don’t wear clothes that are too tight, too short, too revealing, or too blingy. And if you do wear clothes that show skin, throw on a sheer shrug or jacket for more coverage without compromising the overall look. Another way to do it correctly is to show off parts of your body that look sexy without looking vulgar, like your shoulders and your neck.
Choose fabrics and drapes that don’t cling to your body
It is a known fact that some fabrics cling to your body and hence highlight your bulges and folds. So opt for heavier fabrics that drape nicely without accentuating your lumps and bumps. But that does not mean that you should wear shapeless clothing or a size larger than yours. Opt for coverage instead, like a shrug, a jacket, or a stole.
Be discerning in your choice of colours
Leave the fluorescent and bubble gum colors for your daughter. Instead, choose shades that are rich, deep, and saturated. Experiment with colors and see what enhances your look rather than opting for colors that look good on “others.”
Opt for one statement piece
Elegance lies in simplicity, so stay away from clothes that have too much going on, such as ruffles, prints, belts, and bows. Instead, include one amazing pair of shoes or a statement necklace, handbag, or scarf with quirky prints. The idea is to maintain a clean silhouette and break the monotony with a single statement accessory.
Be fussy about your lingerie
When it comes to lingerie, most women prefer comfort over style as they grow older. However, wearing the right lingerie is key to dressing sexy, especially when donning fitted clothes. Don’t hesitate to wear shapewear to tuck in your tummy when wearing a short dress or thigh-slimming shorts when wearing well-fitted jeans.
Choose the right pair of shoes
Another mistake most women make as they age is wearing shoes that make them look dowdy. While comfort is important, don’t completely give up on style. Instead of abandoning heels altogether, choose a style that offers more grip and stability. Many brands combine comfort with style, so finding the right pair of shoes to complement your dress, whether it’s a saree, dress, or pair of shorts, should not be difficult.
So, to conclude we can say being sexy is not limited by age but is instead a state of mind. Society’s notions of what is deemed appropriate or attractive at different stages of life should not dictate how one chooses to express themselves. Embracing one’s sensuality and feeling confident in their own skin is a personal journey that transcends age. It’s about cultivating a mindset that celebrates individuality, confidence, and self-assurance. So, let go of the need for apologies and embrace the mantra that being sexy is ultimately about owning your identity and feeling empowered from within, regardless of the number of candles on your birthday cake!!
